Focus on What You Have

Focus on What You Have

Last month I wrote about my experience creating a gratitude vision board. I mentioned that at one point during the workshop I decided that the board just wasn’t going to happen. I didn’t have the right resources – the magazines were not good enough and there weren’t enough of them. Other people had taken all the good pictures and the few I did find weren’t perfect.

The theme of the workshop was being grateful for what you already have in your life instead of thinking about what you don’t have or what you would like more of. The irony of my situation was not entirely lost on me!

It struck me that sometimes I look at the pieces of my life the same way I was looking at the pictures for my board – that I don’t have enough to make it really good. Sure, my life is pretty good, but surely if it were bigger it would be better!

I was recently listening to a talk by Deepak Chopra who said that people very often buy into ideas about what will make them happy that are not necessarily true. We think we must be hugely successful and rich.  Even millionaires think they won’t be happy until they are billionaires. Basically, bigger is better.

The vision board exercise really illustrated this for me. I wasn’t happy with what I had because I thought I needed more to make something good. I couldn’t see that I actually had enough of the resources I needed to make something beautiful. All I could see was what I didn’t have.

There will always be others who have more. But happiness really comes down to your perspective. You can choose to look at the pieces of your life and say “it’s not enough, I won’t be happy until I have more” or you can choose to be pleased with, and really enjoy, what you do have.

It’s not about settling or fooling yourself. It’s about seeing what is really there and accepting it. Once I stopped focusing on what I didn’t have and started seeing what I did have, it was possible to make a really good vision board. Actually, not even just a really good board, but one that I loved. One that made me smile and feel good.

It may not be a small adjustment for all of us, but a change in focus from what you don’t have to what you do have can make a huge difference in your happiness level.

About Lisa Ivaldi

Lisa Ivaldi loves sharing information that will have a positive impact on the world. InsightClarityGrowth.com is a personal growth blog that combines expert theories and personal stories to bring those theories to life. Sometimes looking at things slightly differently can make a huge difference.
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6 Responses to Focus on What You Have

  1. Paula Clarke says:

    Delightful as always!!!

  2. Jill says:

    So lovely to see how the process is still resonating for you Lisa. You write beautifully. Blessings, Jill

  3. Michelle says:

    Hello Lisa!
    Thanks for the last 2 articles. This year, I started keeping a gratitude jar. Most days I write what I am grateful for today and add to the jar. Late July, I lost my sister, Lisa. Have only added a few slips to my jar in the last month. I am determined to get back on track and make daily gratitude a part of my life again. At year end, I will spend the last day of the year, reviewing all my little joys of 2014. Thanks for the articles!

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